Thoughtful Thursdays: Words of Wisdom
By Candice Aiken.
Welcome to *THOUGHTFUL THURSDAYS*… a new segment for rockin’ words of wisdom, knock-your-freaking-socks-off inspirational stories and well, pretty much anything that will remotely fit into this category!
This week I would like to share with you some words of wisdom that were relevant to me personally over the last week and hopefully they will resonate with you too:
1. It’s ok to cry every now and then:
Something really strange happened to me today. I felt a bit down for no good reason and at some point when the weight of the world on my shoulders became a little too much to bare, these salty wet things suddenly began to escape my eyes. My immediate reaction was shock. What was going on here? Was I leaking? It suddenly occurred to me that that I was crying and I had no idea why. How was this even possible? I am so happy, positive and strong ALL the time, so what was with tears?
In that moment, I gave in to my emotions and allowed myself to truly ‘be’ in my state of overwhelm and sadness… but only for a minute. Although having a cry every now and then is definitely great to cleanse and release some old ‘stuff’, I really just wanted to be happy again. I reflected on my vulnerability and reminded myself that I wasn’t weak for feeling sad and giving myself permission to feel it, but moreso empowered because I acknowledged my obvious need to ’get it out’.
I’ve made some seriously life-changing decisions lately, I’ve been fitting so much into my days (ranging from full time job, to study, to wife, to co-op, to more study, and back around again to writing for our website) and I’ve had some really intense conversations with friends about the meaning of life. After all this, I am not at all surprised that I was being affected in slightly different ways to normal… a whole ‘lotta tears instead of the usual joyful laughter. Thankfully though, I acknowledged this and then decided in that instant to change my mind. Although I am totally grateful for the opportunity to have shed a tear or two, I am also so grateful for the happiness I now choose to experience again.
If you are ever feeling down for no good reason, allow yourself to cry or feel whatever you need to feel and simply ’be’ in the moment and let it all out. Then, when you are ready (and of course, only if you want to) simply make the choice to feel happy again.
2. Approve of yourself
I have a post-it note that is proudly displayed on my bathroom mirror and it says in bold font: “I love and approve of myself as I am right now.” It doesn’t say ‘I love and approve of myself when I lose 5 kg’ or ‘I love and approve of myself when I pay off my serious debt’; it says RIGHT NOW… no buts about it!
I say this affirmation to myself a few times every morning when I am prompted to do so by my note, and when I show myself that level of love and respect it’s absolutely impossible to criticize. Starting today, make an agreement to approve of yourself instead of criticizing and see what happens. Place a note somewhere prominent and repeat it over and over, in your head or in particular to your beautiful face in the mirror. Start noticing what areas of your body and your life begin to improve.
3. If you can dream it, you can do it!
I often remind myself in moments of ‘it’s not possible’ that there was once a time when the Sydney Harbour Bridge didn’t exist but the dream for it to exist did. Now, standing proudly in the beautiful harbour is one of the most spectacular ’man-made’ structures all because of a dream and the intention to make it happen.
Think about anything that exists in this world… it exists because there was an idea, a dream, a desire; however crazy it may have seemed! And then someone made it happen. You can make all of your dreams come true too - however small or large they may seem.
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TODAY’S WORDS FROM THE WISE:
“We are each gifted in a unique and important way. It is our privilege and our adventure to discover our own special light.” ~Mary Dunbar